Neuro-Spicy Motherhood Adventures

It has been a while since we shared on our journey here. Sometimes it is worth just living in the moment and coming back to writing later, even if it does mean needing to write a lot to catch up on.

We are still enjoying our newer residence. Our tiny humans are doing well but have had a whirlwind of experiences. We have always known our sweet little boys were neuro-spicy and love them just the same. Recently, a preschool situation went very badly and it affected our oldest especially. We are now re-assessing and getting them on a great path for a new preschool that will treat them as children should be.

The growth our boys have experienced in the last year alone has been truly just spectacular to watch. We had the kids that walked and crawled early. They were crawling for the electrical outlets when they were still under 6 months old. Then we noticed the speech delay. They just weren't able to keep up with some others. We were patient, we taught them baby ASL, and didn't push them too hard. Our oldest participated in speech therapy which helped some but really just giving him time and grace made all the difference. Now he is telling us stories and acting out different imaginative creations of his own. He is obsessed with dinosaurs and knows the entire alphabet A to Z in dinosaurs (A is Allosaurus, B is Brachiosaurus, C is Carnotaurus, etc.). Our younger son is still speech delayed some but is doing well blossoming his language as well. He too loves dinosaurs but his biggest passion is doggies. He loves animals and is so very kind and loving to everyone.

These past couple years since I was actively writing regularly have given me so much understanding regarding motherhood. At the end of the day all I can do is my best. Every child learns differently, grows differently, and experiences our world in their own unique way. The sooner we all realize this and treat it like a beautifully individualistic journey and less like motherhood is a competitive race to be won, the better our kiddos will be too. I was so excited to brag about my early crawlers, walkers, and even joked about how terrifyingly early they could figure out baby locks. That wasn't my kids winning over the other kids that still weren't walking at 1 year old. That wasn't some better victory. It was just when they were ready. We learned speech and potty training later than some even though I tried to push both of those early for our first initially. Then I realized the more I pushed the harder it was for him. The more anxious he got about doing it. Learning to let go of the control and the books that tell you when things should happen for your kids was a huge step for me.

I'm still a mom and I still worry about my kids all the time. I worry about exposure to foods they are allergic to, I worry about if they are going to adjust well into school, I worry that I haven't taught them enough yet, but I also remind myself to give us grace. This isn't a race, we are just going to enjoy each step as they come when they do, whether it is before, on track, or after other kids, because we all just need a little grace in life sometimes to re-focus on what matters most. Happy and healthy little boys is my answer.

So we are just very happy with the joy our littles have created for us. We definitely are exhausted. The economy feels debilitating at times, and we struggle with so much medically for me (mom) plus our kids needs, but at the end of the day I am so beyond grateful to have the incredible husband I have providing for us the best he can, I have the sweetest, kindest, and most empathetic little boys I ever could've asked for, and I do my best to be the mom they deserve every day!